From the moment that they can understand and give meaning to words, children are constantly reminded to keep themselves safe. “Don’t talk to strangers. Do not give out your address. Always be aware of your surroundings.”But what do we teach them about sexual abuse?Is it too early to teach them about it?
It has been found that by adulthood, 26% of girls and 5% of boys would have experienced sexual abuse at some point in their life.The number of child sexual abuse victims continues to increase overtime as more and more cases are being discovered. This problem is recognized all over the world, and can already be considered as an epidemic.
What is child sexual abuse?
Child sexual abuse(CSA) is defined by the Center for Disease Control and Prevention as “any completed or attempted sexual act, sexual contact with, or exploitation
(non-contact sexual interaction) of a child by a caregiver.”
No parent wants their child to go through any form of sexual abuse,whether it be groping,touching,verbal abuse, or rape .In this article, we’re going to go over some tips on how to educate your child about sexual abuse, and how to avoid it.
How to educate your child about sexual abuse
Teaching your child about sexual abuse is the most important step in preventing it from ever happening. If your child is aware of what sexual abuse is, theycansensewhensomethingiswrongandcantellyouimmediately.Herearesometipsonteaching your children about sexual abuse that they should learn early in life:
1.Teach them about private body parts nearly childhood,you can already teach your child about their private body parts. Teach them that some body parts are private, and only their parents can see them. Use the proper names for private parts,so that they can tell you exactly what body part was touched if anything bad happens. If you feel that you and your child are ready for “the talk”,teach them about the birds and the bees using straightforward but easy to understand language.
2. Secrets with strangers should not be kept Child predator soften get away with sexual abuse by telling a child to keep their“secret”. This is often a black mailing tactic because children are made to believe that when they tell,something bad will happen. Teach your child that secrets with strangers (or other family members)are not okay,and they should always tell you if anyone has touched them or made them feel uncomfortable.
3. Encourage your child to speak out when they are uncomfortable It’s important to teach your children about the importance of speaking out when they sense that something is wrong.Not just about sexual abuse,but other uncomfortable situations as well.Remind your child that when they feel uncomfortable or unsafe, it is okay to say ‘no’ to an adult or friend. Teach them that it’s okay to get out of a situation even i fit seems rude and they will not get in trouble with any one if they do.
4.Set boundaries Children should learn how to set boundaries early on in their life. While teaching your children about their private parts,teach them about boundaries as well. Tell your child that it is not okay for others to touch their private parts and it is not okay to touch other people’s as well(use The Underwear Rule for easier understanding).Moreover, you can also teach your child about personal space and how other people need to respect it.
5. Do not shame sex and masturbation When children feel ashamed, they will avoid talking to their parents about it.In order to keep an open communication line with your child, do not shame sex and masturbation.Teach your child that sex is some thing done by adults to express love. However, send a clear message that adults should not have sexual relations with children.In this way, your child will talk to you with out fear and hesitation.
Child sexual abuse has long-term consequences on psychological health and well-being. Unfortunately, it is one of the most prevalent problems in the country, and all over the world as well. To protect your child from sexual abuse,the first and most important step is to educate them about it. With enough guidance and education, children can avoid sexual abuse and report it immediately if it ever happens.